Latia I. Am

at times i wonder like

when is it okay to let someone’s past grievances go?

like, think of the artist formally known as Snapesnogger, she was a brat but she grew up and got really, -really- good at art. (it helped that it was mainly her personality that needed work and she never did anything racist/homophobic/etc)

but what about more serious things like…say, making a really gross comic (tw: transphobia,cissexism ) several years ago with the punchline ‘maybe i wouldn’t objectify you if you weren’t so hot’. said artist has recently made a comic about accepting queer identities and that comic linked above was about three years ago. that was a shitty thing to make, but is it okay to judge her for it when you know they’ve probably matured and changed their views?

let’s get even more serious. what about a popular music artist assaulting his girlfriend and then performing and winning an award several years later? is it okay that a lot of people have forgiven Chris Brown? is it possible to forgive someone for domestic abuse of their romantic partner?

personally, i can’t stand or forgive Chris Brown but i still wonder about forgiveness, and if people can change. we live in a world that can record and archive every single one of our fuckups, and it’s hard to make a mistake years ago without it being rooted up and displayed for everyone to see.

my idea is that you should apologize for problematic things you have done in the past, at the very least. but then, what? what happens when people bring it up, again and again? what things are okay to forgive?

 personally, it’s very hard for me, neigh on impossible, to forgive and forget. i remember virtually and slight against me or my loved ones. but…again, it’s a very gray area, and i honestly don’t know what the answer is.